{"id":4771,"date":"2021-08-20T12:33:37","date_gmt":"2021-08-20T09:33:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/?p=4771"},"modified":"2021-08-20T12:33:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-20T09:33:40","slug":"egitimin-temeli-aile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/?p=4771","title":{"rendered":"E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M\u0130N TEMEL\u0130 &#8220;A\u0130LE&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M\u0130N TEMEL\u0130 A\u0130LE<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u2018\u2019Hedefiniz bir y\u0131ll\u0131k ise bu\u011fday ekin, hedefiniz on y\u0131ll\u0131k ise a\u011fa\u00e7 ekin, e\u011fer hedefiniz y\u00fcz y\u0131ll\u0131k ise insan yeti\u015ftirin.\u2019\u2019 (Konf\u00fc\u00e7y\u00fcs)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u0130nsan\u0131n yeti\u015fmesinin temeli olan aile, hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz e\u011fitimin ilk ve en \u00f6nemli ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar her ne kadar sosyal \u00e7evresiyle olan ili\u015fkileri neticesinde olgunla\u015fmay\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor olsa da, yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n temelleri mutlaka aile ortam\u0131nda ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 talim terbiye ile bir sonraki ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n mukavemetini olu\u015fturur.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sosyal, ekonomik, iklim ve co\u011frafi \u015fartlar do\u011frultusunda bir\u00e7ok farkl\u0131 aile tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan s\u00f6z edebilmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Baz\u0131 aile tiplerini \u015f\u00f6yle tan\u0131mlayabiliriz; A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruyucu<\/strong><strong>, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc, &nbsp;m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i, ilgisiz, tutars\u0131z, bask\u0131c\u0131 ve demokratik aileler. Buna g\u00f6re kendi aile tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da de\u011ferlendirmi\u015f olabiliriz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruyucu aile tipi; Bu tip anne babalar \u00e7ocu\u011fa gerekti\u011finden fazla kontrol ve \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterirler, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na sorumluluk vermezler, \u00e7ocu\u011funun yapaca\u011f\u0131 i\u015fleri onun ad\u0131na kendisi yapar.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucu \u00e7ocuk \u00e7evresindeki ki\u015filere a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131, kendisine g\u00fcveni olmayan, duygusal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131 olan bir ki\u015fili\u011fe sahip, i\u00e7e kapan\u0131kt\u0131r, utanga\u00e7t\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc aile tipi; Bu tip anne babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n isteklerini s\u00fcrekli yerine getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Disiplin yok denecek kadar azd\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 olumsuz da olsa ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcyle kar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucunda \u00e7ocukta<\/strong><strong> a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn getirdi\u011fi s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k, sorumsuzluk ve bencillik g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Bir s\u00fcre sonra evi \u00e7ocuk y\u00f6netir. Sosyal uyumda g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck \u00e7ektiklerinden mutsuz bir yeti\u015fkin aday\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i aile tipi; Bu tip anne babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan en iyisini bekler, kendi ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedi\u011fi ya\u015fant\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmesini ister. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi kabul etmezler, kural ve kal\u0131plar\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00f6rt d\u00f6rtl\u00fck olmas\u0131n\u0131 ve m\u00fckemmel \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerde davranmas\u0131n\u0131 beklerler.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucu \u00e7ocuklarda;<\/strong><strong> S\u00fcrekli y\u00fcksek beklentiler sonucunda \u00e7ocuk istekleri kar\u015f\u0131layam\u0131yorsa \u00e7ocuk nas\u0131l olsa yapam\u0131yorum d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle \u00f6yleyse neden deneyeyim d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini olu\u015fturur. \u00c7ocukta a\u015fa\u011f\u0131l\u0131k kompleksi olu\u015fur. \u00c7ocuk mutsuz ve doyumsuz olur. Kendi do\u011fal i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcleri ile a\u011f\u0131r kurallar aras\u0131nda s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kalan \u00e7ocuk s\u00fcrekli sevgi ve nefret kar\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 duygular ya\u015far.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>\u0130lgisiz aile tipi; Bu tip anne babalar i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da yoklu\u011fu belli de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lanmaz, sevgi g\u00f6sterilmez. \u00c7ocu\u011fun yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 olumlu ya da olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flarla ilgilenilmez. \u00c7ocu\u011fa zaman ayr\u0131lmaz. \u00c7ocuk anne babay\u0131 rahats\u0131z etmedi\u011fi s\u00fcrece \u00e7ocukla ilgilenilmez<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sunucu \u00e7ocuk ihmal edilmi\u015ftir ve yeti\u015fkin rol\u00fc almada zorlan\u0131rlar.<\/strong><strong> Kendini de\u011fersiz hisseder, kendisine olan sayg\u0131s\u0131 geli\u015fmez. Olumlu olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ayr\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 yapamaz. Toplumun kurallar\u0131n\u0131 red ederler, ya i\u00e7e kapan\u0131kt\u0131rlar ya da sald\u0131rgand\u0131rlar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Tutars\u0131z aile tipi;<\/strong><strong> Bu tip ailelerde disiplin vard\u0131r ama belirsizdir. Tutars\u0131zl\u0131k anne baban\u0131n \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 e\u011fitim anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131na sahip olmas\u0131ndan kaynaklanabilir.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucu \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015fkinli\u011finde davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7evresindekilere g\u00f6re ayarlar. S\u00fcrekli tedirginlik ve gerginlik ya\u015far.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Bask\u0131c\u0131 aile tipi; <\/strong><strong>Bu tip aileler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na emredici davran\u0131rlar, su\u00e7layan cezaland\u0131ran anne babalard\u0131r. Kurallar zinciri vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar ayr\u0131 bir birey de\u011fildir. Kurallara uyulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda orant\u0131s\u0131z cezalar verilir.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucu \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ekingen, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n etkisinde kalabilen, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 hassas yap\u0131 i\u00e7inde olabilece\u011fi gibi isyankar, kendine ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na zarar verebilen, su\u00e7a y\u00f6nelik davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6sterebilir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Demokrat aile tipi; Anne baba \u00e7ocu\u011funa kabul edici ve sevgi dolu yakla\u015f\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fayarak \u00f6\u011frenmesine izin verirler. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 ayr\u0131 bir birey olarak kabul ederler ve ya\u015f\u0131na, durumuna uygun se\u00e7enekler sunarlar. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ilgilerini g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde tutarak yeteneklerini geli\u015ftirecek ortam\u0131 haz\u0131rlar. &nbsp;Anne baban\u0131n birbirlerine ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 tutum ve duygular\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k ve nettir. Aile i\u00e7inde g\u00fcven ve \u015feffafl\u0131k vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 desteklerler. &nbsp;Belirli kurallar vard\u0131r.<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bunun sonucu \u00e7ocuk sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 sosyal uyum kurabilen, i\u015fbirli\u011fine haz\u0131r, arkada\u015f canl\u0131s\u0131, \u00fcretken, ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131, duygusal y\u00f6nden dengeli ve mutlu birey olarak hayata haz\u0131rlan\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n geli\u015fimleri ya\u015flar\u0131na g\u00f6re mutlaka de\u011fi\u015fik \u00f6zellikler g\u00f6sterecektir. \u00d6zellikle 12-18 ya\u015f aral\u0131\u011f\u0131 ergenlik olarak adland\u0131r\u0131lan d\u00f6nem, ya\u015fam\u0131n en zor ve karma\u015f\u0131k d\u00f6nemidir.<\/strong><strong> Gen\u00e7, bedenindeki fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fime uyum sa\u011flamaya, kabullenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken duygusal bir\u00e7ok \u00e7alkant\u0131 da ya\u015fayabilir. Bu d\u00f6nemlerde g\u00f6r\u00fclen ba\u015fl\u0131ca davran\u0131\u015f ve tutum de\u011fi\u015fiklikleri; yaln\u0131zl\u0131k iste\u011fi, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma isteksizli\u011fi, dengesizlikler, can s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131, huzursuzluk, toplumsal z\u0131tl\u0131k, otoriteye kar\u015f\u0131 direni\u015f, duygululu\u011fun artmas\u0131, kendine g\u00fcvensizlik, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00e7ekingenlik, dikkatsizlik, da\u011f\u0131n\u0131kl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u00c7ok de\u011ferli anneler ve babalar\u2026 \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n t\u00fcm ya\u015f aral\u0131klar\u0131 \u00e7ok de\u011ferlidir.&nbsp; Covid-19 bula\u015f ve k\u0131s\u0131tlamalar sebebiyle \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zda bir tak\u0131m psikolojik problemlerin olabilece\u011fi bu d\u00f6nemde can parelerimiz bizlere her zamankinden daha fazla ihtiya\u00e7 duyacaklar\u0131n\u0131 unutmamal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>L\u00fctfen evlatlar\u0131m\u0131zdan deste\u011fimizi esirgemeyelim.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Amac\u0131m\u0131z yar\u0131nlara; sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, mutlu, vatanperver, ecdad\u0131na ve b\u00fcy\u00fcklerine dua eden, onlar\u0131 hay\u0131rla y\u00e2d eden evlatlar yeti\u015ftirebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M\u0130N TEMEL\u0130 A\u0130LE \u2018\u2019Hedefiniz bir y\u0131ll\u0131k ise bu\u011fday ekin, hedefiniz on y\u0131ll\u0131k ise a\u011fa\u00e7 ekin, e\u011fer hedefiniz y\u00fcz y\u0131ll\u0131k ise insan yeti\u015ftirin.\u2019\u2019 (Konf\u00fc\u00e7y\u00fcs) \u0130nsan\u0131n yeti\u015fmesinin temeli olan aile, hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz e\u011fitimin ilk ve en \u00f6nemli ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar her ne kadar sosyal \u00e7evresiyle olan ili\u015fkileri neticesinde olgunla\u015fmay\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor olsa da, yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n temelleri mutlaka aile ortam\u0131nda ald\u0131\u011f\u0131&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4772,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4771"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4771"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4771\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4773,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4771\/revisions\/4773"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4772"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4771"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4771"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mbirekul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4771"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}